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Yesterday, I was cleaning my house. Cleaning is another source of inspiration for me. This is a time when I can think clearly because my house is actually getting clean. I used to be totally type A about my house. But as I have gotten older and have had three kids, my standards are no longer like they used to be! While I was cleaning yesterday, I was thinking of my great grandmothers book. I was thinking about how well put together all the women seemed. The pictures of the food were perfect and the meal planning was amazing! I thought to myself, “Did women really do all of this?” “Did they really wear dresses while cleaning their house?” “Did they really take this much time to put together a meal?” As I stood there in my tank top and shorts with my hair pulled up in a ponytail cleaning my kids’ toilet, I was in awe of how they could clean in heels.
I decided to look it up. And guess what, the majority of the women did do these things! Now, I am fairly new to the housewife kingdom, but I could not believe it! Women actually wore dresses when cleaning toilets! Unthinkable! The picture below is actually a normal picture for the 1950’s.
This is also a normal family picture.
Now I must admit that my pictures would be much different! While cooking dinner, I would not be as happy in a beautiful dress. I would be yelling at my kids in sweats! And as for the happy family picture, my kids would have been so excited that they would have run into me, making me drop the cake, then I would begin yelling again, and my husband would have suddenly disappeared to avoid the chaos.
In a book I am currently reading called The Power of a Positive Mom, there is a section of how times have changed from the 1950’s to today. She gives 10 ways to be a positive mother/wife from a 1950’s home economics book. Here they are:
1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal on the table-on time. This is a way of letting your husband know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs.
2. Prepare yourself. Take fifteen minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when your husband arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair, and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
3. Clear away clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dustcloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.
4. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces. If they are small, comb their hair, and if neccessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures, and he should like to see them playing the part.
5. Minimze the noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher and vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him.
6. Some don’ts: Don’t greet him with a problem or complaint. Don’t complain if he is late for dinner.Count this as minor compared with what he might havegone through during the day.
7. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
8. Listen to him. You may have a dozen thingsto tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.
9. Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his need to be home and relax.
10. The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can feel refreshed.